A Fight About Who’s Allowed To Have A Crush

About this episode

The episode discusses the complexities of crushes in relationships, the disparity in hobbies between men and women, and the unofficial standards women feel pressured to meet.

Is having a crush the secret to a happy relationship, or the gateway drug to a ruinous affair? We can’t agree. Meanwhile, comedian Nikki Glaser says that sexual cheating is a turn-on and emotional cheating is a no-no. Who’s right, who’s deluded, and who should just be single, according to Emily Vernem? Plus, enthusiasm for hobbies is at an-all time high, but why does it feel like men get all the good ones, while women get the leftovers of leisure? Holly Wainwright talks about her life-changing gardening habit, but acknowledges it’s first to go when life gets busy. So what’s an untouchable 'Sovereign Hobby', and how do we get one?  And, there is an unofficial list of things women do to look like they have their shit together, and it involves everything from keeping whites white, to having enough coathangers, to knowing what stock is. Clare Stephens just wishes she could remember the snacks. TV RECCOS SPECIAL Clare’s watching: DTF St. Louis on HBO Max. A dark, nonlinear comedy about a love triangle, a dating app for married people, and David Harbour being incredibly likable. Holly’s watching: Riot Women on SBS. Created by Happy Valley…

People in this episode

Hosts: Holly Wainwright, Clare Stephens, Em, Mia, Amelia

Guest: Nikki Glaser

Topics covered

• crush
• relationships
• hobbies
• women's issues

Keywords

• emotional cheating
• sexual cheating
• Sovereign Hobby
• gardening

Mentioned in this episode

Products: DTF St. Louis, Riot Women

Books & works: Riot Women, Happy Valley ’s, Got Money Troubles, Mia's Uncomfortable Aha Moment About Friendship, A Podcast Feud & Hanging Out With Prince Harry, Nana Rules, The Chatbot History, Parenting Out Loud, Mamamia Out Loud

Places: Hollywood

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