About this episode

Dr. Marisa Franco discusses the differences between fragile self-esteem and true self-worth, offering insights and tools for building internal security.

I sit down with psychologist and bestselling author Dr. Marisa Franco to break down the crucial differences between fragile self-esteem and true, lasting self-worth. We explore why traditional self-help advice often backfires, how unresolved "open" memories quietly drive present-day reactivity, and why healing requires loving self-acceptance rather than trying to eradicate your flaws. Dr. Franco also shares practical, science-backed tools - including memory reconsolidation and somatic exercises - to help you build a grounded foundation of internal security. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:00 - Introduction & Self-Worth vs. Self-Esteem 00:03:03 - Why Positive Self-Talk Can Backfire 00:04:40 - Open Memories: The Database of Self-Esteem 00:07:00 - Moving Past Self-Evaluation to Authenticity 00:09:23 - Rethinking Attachment Theory and the "Secure" Ideal 00:13:40 - Why You Can't Coerce Yourself Into Healing 00:18:07 - Memory Reconsolidation and Updating the Past 00:28:46 - Implicit Memory, the Amygdala, and Somatic Triggers 00:35:36 - Separating Personhood and Self-Worth from Performance 00:43:49 - Deep Exploration vs. Superficial Acceptance 00:46:46 - Relational Expressions of Low…

People in this episode

Host: Connor Beaton

Guest: Dr. Marisa Franco

Topics covered

• self-esteem
• self-worth
• psychology
• healing
• memory reconsolidation
• self-acceptance

Keywords

• self-esteem
• self-worth
• psychology
• healing
• memory reconsolidation
• self-acceptance
• positive self-talk
• attachment theory
• somatic exercises

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Fre

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