About this episode

Julie B. and Mike Foster discuss how to identify and address the real problems in marriage to improve communication and connection.

What if the problem you keep arguing about in marriage isn’t actually the real problem? On this episode of Marriage on the Daily , Julie B. sits down with author, speaker, and executive coach Mike Foster to talk about his book The Seven Primal Questions and how understanding the need beneath the conflict can transform the way couples communicate, connect, and show up for each other. Mike has spent more than 20 years helping people stop solving the wrong problem and start leading out of clarity instead of confusion. In this conversation, he explains why many couples stay stuck in the “canopy” of the tree—arguing about behaviors, emotions, and symptoms—when the real breakthrough often comes from getting down to the root. Together, Julie and Mike discuss: • What the Seven Primal Questions are • How unmet needs drive conflict in marriage • Why couples often keep having the same argument over and over • How to identify the deeper question your spouse may be asking • Why your spouse cannot be responsible for meeting every need all the time • The difference between healthy needs and unrealistic expectations • How God, trusted relationships, and self-leadership all play a role in healing…

People in this episode

Host: Julie B.

Guest: Mike Foster

Topics covered

• marriage conflict
• communication
• unmet needs
• self-leadership
• relationship advice

Keywords

• marriage
• conflict resolution
• communication skills
• relationship dynamics
• self-improvement

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: The Seven Primal Questions

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