The Real Reason You React The Way You Do In Relationships (And How to Change It)

About this episode

Marianne DeMello-Smith discusses emotional safety in relationships with therapist Diane McDowell.

In this episode of Message in the Middle, Marianne sits down with therapist, relationships coach, and emotional safety expert Diane McDowell to explore a powerful reframe: What if the challenges in your relationships aren’t about communication or compatibility… but about emotional safety? Because when emotional safety is missing, everything changes. You can know the tools. You can have the awareness. You can want to respond differently. But in the moment, none of it seems to matte...

People in this episode

Host: Marianne DeMello-Smith

Guest: Diane McDowell

Topics covered

• emotional safety
• relationships
• communication
• compatibility
• personal growth

Keywords

• emotional safety
• relationships
• communication
• therapy
• personal development

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