The Gap Year That Saved A Marriage

The Gap Year That Saved A Marriage

October 27, 2025 · 1h 0m

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Monique van Tulder shares her transformative experience of taking a gap year that ultimately saved her marriage.

The invisible woman still leaves quite a gap when she disappears. You might not have seen her smoothing your path this morning, ensuring clean clothes, full bellies, and petrol in cars. She paid bills, kept WiFi flowing, Netflix streaming, remembered gym renewals and doctor's appointments—putting herself last on every list. Until she doesn't. When the invisible woman packs her bags and buggers right off, suddenly her space becomes blindingly clear. Meet Monique van Tulder—mum, wife, woman who forgot to live her life. She took a grown-up gap year, went to change lightbulbs, and didn't return for months. Her sons call it "the time mum got mad and took off." She calls it life-changing—saving her marriage by renegotiating it entirely. You can find Monique's book A Grown Up's Gap Year here and her podcast here .  THE END BITS:  Mamamia wants to hear about your financial wellbeing and how you're feeling about the future. Complete our short survey here for a chance to win a $1,000 gift voucher in our quarterly draw!  Share your feedback!  Send us a voice message or email us at podcast@mamamia.com.au   Follow us on Instagram @MidbyMamamia or…

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