They Don't Have a Frame of Reference Yet

About this episode

Brooke discusses the importance of understanding different perspectives and the complexities of support during difficult times.

Episode Highlights (Quick Notes) Why your young adult may not “get it” yet — and why that’s normal What a frame of reference actually means (and how it shapes every reaction) The college airport goodbye that didn’t make sense… until 30 years later A tragic family experience that permanently shaped Brooke’s compassion The simple but powerful lesson: When someone is hurting, come. Why people sometimes disappear during hard seasons (fear, not indifference) Grief that others don’t understand — until they live it themselves Divorce vs. death: how support can look uneven Brené Brown’s insight: believing people are doing their best changes how we treat them How to stop taking things personally when someone lacks experience Releasing the need for constant appreciation Remembering the quiet ways Heaven shows up for you Mentioned in the intro Bridges Program (small group coaching) Brooke shares an invitation to join Bridges , a small group coaching program beginning in early March , designed to help you apply the tools from the podcast to your real-life relationship challenges—while learning alongside others. Email Brooke for details at brooke@brookeoniki.com Stay Connected With Brooke Get…

People in this episode

Host: Brooke Oniki

Topics covered

• young adults
• frame of reference
• grief
• support
• compassion
• emotional wellness

Keywords

• frame of reference
• young adults
• grief
• support
• compassion
• emotional wellness
• Brené Brown

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