What to Do When Divorce Drudges up Suppressed Trauma for the High Achiever

What to Do When Divorce Drudges up Suppressed Trauma for the High Achiever

January 22, 2026 · 30 min · Season 1

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The episode discusses how high achievers can cope with suppressed trauma during divorce, featuring insights from therapist Laurel van der Toorn on EMDR therapy.

Send us Fan Mail Join us as we sit down with Marriage & Family Therapist, Laurel van der Toorn, to discuss what you can do when a pending or active divorce starts to drudge up suppressed trauma for the high achiever. Laurel explains how EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) therapy works to help people process traumatic memories and heal attachment wounds. The conversation explores why high achievers often struggle during divorce, how childhood attachment styles affec...

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