Why You’re Obsessed, Anxious, And Still Single - Mercedes Coffman - #1092

About this episode

Mercedes Coffman discusses the challenges of modern dating and the impact of avoidant culture on emotionally available individuals.

Mercedes Coffman is a writer, researcher, and cultural commentator. What’s happening with modern dating? People who are genuinely ready for a relationship feel frustrated, even punished by a shallow dating pool, yet others seem to find real love every day. So what’s actually broken, and what can be fixed? Expect to learn why avoidant culture is changing relationship expectations, if modern dating is punishing emotionally available people, why dating fatigue is kicking in, if someone is actually too busy for you or if they just say they are, the most common ways people unknowingly sabotage their own relationships, why you can just “fix her” and much more… Sponsors: See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: ⁠⁠https://chriswillx.com/deals⁠⁠ Get a Free Sample Pack of LMNT’s most popular flavours with your first purchase at https://drinklmnt.com/modernwisdom Get 35% off your first subscription on the best supplements from Momentous at https://livemomentous.com/modernwisdom Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period from Shopify at https://shopify.com/modernwisdom Get 15% off your first order of my favourite Non-Alcoholic Brew at…

People in this episode

Host: Chris Williamson

Guest: Mercedes Coffman

Topics covered

• modern dating
• emotional availability
• relationship expectations
• dating fatigue
• avoidant culture

Keywords

• modern dating
• emotional maturity
• relationship sabotage
• dating pool
• avoidant culture

Sponsors

LMNT, Momentous, Shopify, Athletic Brewing

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