Your Past Is in the Room: How Trauma Shapes Your Parenting | EP111

About this episode

This episode discusses how past trauma influences parenting behaviors and offers practical tools for managing emotional responses.

Trauma & Parenting — Your past is always in the room with you. Here's how to stop letting it parent your kids. You've lost it over a forgotten lunch bag. You've gone cold when your kid was crying and needed you. You've finished their homework at midnight because you couldn't stand to watch them struggle. That's not a parenting problem — it's a trauma response, and today we're finally talking about it. WHAT'S INSIDE THIS EPISODE: Why your overreactions and shutdowns are your nervous system talking — not a character flaw The 3 faces of trauma in parenting: the Exploder, the Avoider, and the Controller (at least one will make you go "oh, that's me") How grief, abandonment, and even a "normal" childhood can wire your parenting responses without you knowing it 4 practical tools to widen the gap between your trigger and your reaction — starting today Why repairing out loud with your kids after a bad moment is one of the most powerful parenting moves you can make WHY THIS MATTERS TO YOU: You swore you'd never sound like your mother. And then you opened your mouth during a meltdown and heard her voice come out. That heat rising in your chest, the words that didn't even feel like…

People in this episode

Host: Natalie McCabe

Topics covered

• trauma
• parenting
• nervous system
• emotional responses
• self-awareness
• parenting strategies

Keywords

• trauma
• parenting
• emotional responses
• nervous system
• self-care
• parenting strategies
• overreactions
• shutdowns
• repairing relationships
• childhood experiences

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