E39 - I thought I'd be further ahead by now

About this episode

In this birthday reflection episode, Ksenia discusses the mixed emotions of self-employment and the pressure to meet societal expectations.

Four years into self-employment, almost two years of this podcast... and instead of feeling settled, I’ve been sitting with a lot of mixed emotions. In this birthday reflection episode, I talk honestly about the thought many of us carry: “I should be further ahead by now.” I reflect on academic conditioning, linear timelines, grief around identity shifts, motherhood and building a business in “hard mode,” and the pressure to measure ourselves by standards that were never designed for our live...

People in this episode

Host: Ksenia Volkova Tomaz

Topics covered

• self-employment
• identity shifts
• motherhood
• business challenges
• personal reflection

Keywords

• self-employment
• identity
• motherhood
• business
• reflection
• emotions
• expectations

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