580 - Actually, You Should Be Testing Your Partner
From Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships by Multiamory | Pleasure Podcasts
May 26, 2026 · 1h 4m · Season 1 · Episode 580
About this episode
This episode discusses the common urge to test partners in relationships and offers alternatives to this behavior.
Have you ever tested a partner? Found yourself engineering a situation, dropping a hint, waiting for them to text first, all so you can see if they're as committed to you as you are to them? Uncertainty is hard in relationships, and if we don't feel safe enough to ask directly, we sometimes test our partners in ways that are sneaky, manipulative, and frankly, exhausting for everyone involved. This week, we're discussing why the urge to test a partner is actually quite normal, going over what research says about the different kinds of tests people use and what they might reveal, and things you can do instead when you feel the desire to start testing a partner. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community.Get 10% off sexual health supplements at vb.health with promo code MULTI.,Quality lube is essential for good sexual experiences. Try our absolute favorite, Uberlube and get 10% off plus free shipping with promo code MULTIAMORYWhatever you want to learn, MasterClass has something for you, taught by experts in…
People in this episode
Host: Multiamory
Topics covered
- relationship testing
- communication
- commitment
- emotional safety
- manipulation
- self-awareness
Keywords
- relationship tests
- commitment
- communication
- emotional safety
- manipulation
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