People are sharing what it's like to still be a virgin in your 20s, 30s, 40s, and beyond.

People are sharing what it's like to still be a virgin in your 20s, 30s, 40s, and beyond.

From Not Just A Rainbow by Catherine Cager

March 24, 2026 · 9 min · Season 1 · Episode 117

About this episode

This episode discusses the experiences and pressures of being a virgin in a society obsessed with sex, featuring real stories from individuals across different age groups.

In this episode, we’re talking about something that almost never gets discussed honestly - being a virgin in a world that seems obsessed with sex. While pop culture loves to joke about it, real people rarely get the chance to share what it actually feels like to not have that experience, especially as they get older. We also touch on how online spaces like www.onlypics.com/Chinese can shape unrealistic expectations about intimacy and experience. We hear real stories from people in their late teens all the way into their 50s, each with their own reasons and perspectives. For some, it’s about anxiety, confidence, or mental health. For others, it’s about waiting for the right connection or simply not seeing sex as a priority. What comes through in all of these stories isn’t just the absence of sex, but the pressure, expectations, and sometimes loneliness that come with it, especially in a culture influenced by trends and content like mature doggystyle that can distort reality. We also unpack how dating culture, apps, and social norms can make things even more complicated. When everyone around you seems to be moving forward in relationships, it’s easy to feel like you’re falling…

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