About this episode

The episode explores the complexities of gay life in your 30s, focusing on the psychological impact of significant weight loss and its effects on attractiveness and attention in social spaces.

Send us Fan Mail This episode of "Not Well" is a brutally honest, stream-of-consciousness conversation about navigating gay life in your 30s with all its contradictions and anxieties. The hosts dive deep into the psychological aftermath of major weight loss, discussing how losing 65-70 pounds has paradoxically made one of them feel less attractive in gay spaces—getting way more attention as a bigger bear than as a slimmer guy. They question whether it's the weight, aging, or just a combinatio...

People in this episode

Hosts: Bobby, Jim, Friends

Topics covered

• gay life
• weight loss
• attractiveness
• aging
• psychological effects

Keywords

• gay life
• weight loss
• attractiveness
• aging
• psychological effects
• body image
• self-esteem

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