About this episode

Jade discusses the myth of instant bonding with newborns and the importance of gradual attachment.

Did you feel that instant rush of love the moment your baby was placed on your chest? Jade didn't — and on the surgical table after her emergency c-section, when the nurses offered to lay her daughter on her chest, she said "no, not right now." If you've ever carried that quiet guilt, this episode is for you. This week on Notes From Motherhood, Jade unpacks the myth that bonding is instant and automatic — the worry she hears more than almost any other in her therapy room. You'll hear the difference between bonding and attachment , why a love that grows in slowly is no less real, and how secure attachment is actually built: not in one magical moment, but in a thousand ordinary ones — the 2am feeds, the pick-ups, the days you feel completely checked out. Jade also draws a clear, compassionate line between the normal human moments of anger and overwhelm, and the kind of ongoing harm that actually affects attachment. If no one has told you lately: you're doing better than you think. 🎧 A gentle heads-up: this episode touches on birth trauma and difficult feelings after birth. As always, this podcast isn't a substitute for therapy. A quick note on the science, because mums…

People in this episode

Host: Jade Marklew

Topics covered

• bonding
• attachment
• parenting
• birth trauma
• emotional health

Keywords

• bonding
• attachment
• parenting
• birth trauma
• emotional health
• motherhood
• 2am feeds

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