How to Stop Dating the Wrong Person

How to Stop Dating the Wrong Person

From Office Hours with Arthur Brooks by Arthur Brooks

June 8, 2026 · 42 min

About this episode

Arthur Brooks discusses the challenges of dating the wrong person and how to break unhealthy patterns in love.

Finding the right person is hard. Being attracted to the wrong one is just as common. In this episode of Office Hours , I explore why some people find themselves stuck in the same dating patterns over and over again, pursuing partners who are unavailable, manipulative, emotionally destructive, or struggling with addiction. I explain why attraction can override good judgment, why certain personality types are especially alluring, and how to learn from past mistakes and create healthier patterns in love. This episode focuses on choosing the right person in the first place. If you haven't yet listened to my episode, 3 Rules to Fall in Love and Stay in Love , I recommend it as a companion to this conversation. Together, they offer a roadmap for both finding love and building a lasting relationship. — Brought to you by: • ⁠ LMNT ⁠ —A science-backed electrolyte drink mix that helps you feel and perform your best, without sugar, artificial ingredients, or gimmicks. Get a free sample pack at ⁠DrinkLMNT.com/Arthur⁠ — Where to find Arthur Brooks: • Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://arthurbrooks.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ • In-person Retreats…

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Host: Arthur Brooks

Topics covered

  • dating patterns
  • attraction
  • healthy relationships
  • emotional health
  • self-improvement

Keywords

  • dating
  • attraction
  • relationships
  • emotional health
  • self-improvement
  • love
  • patterns

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