About this episode

This episode explores the concept of scheduled sex in long-term relationships and its impact on desire and intimacy.

Is scheduled sex sexy… or does it kill the vibe? In this episode, I’m breaking down one of the most common (and quietly controversial) topics that shows up in long-term relationships: putting sex on the calendar. Because when life gets full—kids, careers, stress, exhaustion— spontaneity doesn’t just disappear… it gets crowded out. So what happens when you stop waiting to “feel in the mood” and start creating the conditions for desire instead? We’re talking about: Why desire naturally shifts in long-term relationships (and why nothing is “wrong” with you) The myth that real desire should always be spontaneous How scheduling intimacy can actually increase anticipation, playfulness, and connection The difference between sex as a feeling vs. sex as a choice How to reduce pressure, performance anxiety, and the fear of obligation Why defining sex more broadly changes everything Common traps couples fall into (and how to avoid them) Practical ways to make scheduled intimacy feel intentional—not clinical Because here’s the truth: scheduling sex isn’t about forcing desire… it’s about making space for it . And for many couples, that shift is everything. — Want to take this deeper? If this…

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