171. Why the Spark Fades in Long-Term Relationships — and the One Practice That Brings Desire Back with Stefanos Sifandos
About this episode
Kate Northrup and Stefanos Sifandos discuss how long-term relationships can reflect personal wounds and the practices that can restore desire and intimacy.
What if your most challenging relationships are also your greatest opportunity for healing? In this deeply personal conversation, Kate Northrup sits down with relationship coach and author Stefanos Sifandos to explore how our romantic relationships become mirrors for the wounds, patterns, and beliefs we've carried since childhood. Together, they discuss why trauma is inherently relational, how polarity creates intimacy, and why true healing happens not in isolation, but through safe, connected relationships. Stefanos opens up about his marriage to Christine Hassler, the transformative experience of becoming a father, and how parenting exposed perfectionism, control, and parts of himself he didn't know still needed healing. Kate and Stefanos also explore masculine and feminine dynamics, nervous system safety, emotional responsibility, and what it really means to love without losing yourself. Whether you're navigating a relationship, healing from one, or simply seeking a deeper understanding of yourself, this episode offers a compassionate perspective on how intimacy can become a pathway to profound personal and spiritual growth. “Most wounds are relational, so they have to be…
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