Be It til you Are It

About this episode

This episode discusses how to show up as a connected parent even on depleted days by reframing the concept of 'fake it till you make it' into 'be it till you are it'.

What do you do when you're supposed to show up as a connected, intentional parent — and you have absolutely nothing left? This is the episode for the depleted days. The ones where Date Day is on the calendar and everything in you wants to cancel it. Where you love your kids deeply but parenting feels like a performance you're failing to pull off. Here's the plot twist: you're not performing. You already are the parent you're trying to be. Let's reframe "fake it till you make it" for something with real roots: be it till you are it. Drawing from Brené Brown's research on daring leadership, the science of enclothed cognition, and the faith concept of metanoia (transformation of mind), this episode makes the case that showing up with your tools, even when the feeling isn't there, isn't performance. It's practice. And practice is exactly how identity is built. You'll walk away with three concrete strategies for leading with the tool instead of waiting for the feeling, and a challenge that takes less than five minutes. If nobody's told you lately: what you are doing matters so much.

People in this episode

Host: Julie Winchester Workman

Topics covered

• parenting
• identity
• mental health
• self-care
• intentional parenting

Keywords

• parenting strategies
• depleted days
• intentional parenting
• Brené Brown
• enclothed cognition

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