“Fighting Fire With Fire” by Chrissy Cole

About this episode

Pastor Chrissy Cole discusses handling conflict with humility and Spirit-led self-control in her message 'Fighting Fire With Fire'.

Pastor Chrissy Cole continues the Through the Fire series with “Fighting Fire With Fire,” a message on handling conflict with humility and Spirit-led self-control. Teaching from James 1 and Ephesians 4, she explains how unmanaged anger damages connection and how choosing kindness, listening, and unity leads to healthier relationships. Click here to view the episode transcript. (00:00) - Through the Fire series recap (02:30) - Fighting Fire With Fire introduction (05:00) - Conflict is the price of intimacy (07:10) - Flesh fire vs Spirit fire (11:00) - Conflict is inevitable, combustion is optional (14:45) - What anger exposes in the heart (18:30) - Identifying unhealthy communication styles (21:00) - Be quick to listen, slow to speak (James 1:19) (24:30) - Managing anger before it manages you (29:00) - Practical tools for emotional regulation (34:30) - Humility protects unity (39:00) - Choosing connection over being right (42:30) - Invitation, prayer & response

People in this episode

Host: Chrissy Cole

Topics covered

• conflict resolution
• humility
• self-control
• communication
• relationships

Keywords

• Through the Fire series
• unmanaged anger
• kindness
• listening
• unity
• emotional regulation
• humility
• healthy relationships

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Fighting Fire With Fire, Through the Fire

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