Abandoning Ourselves to Protect Ourselves

About this episode

Dr. David J. Schlosz explores the hidden cost of self-abandonment and the importance of choosing oneself in healthy ways.

There are moments in life when we abandon ourselves in order to protect ourselves. We stay silent instead of speaking honestly. We disconnect from our feelings to avoid conflict, rejection, shame, or discomfort. And afterward, something painful lingers: the feeling that we betrayed ourselves. In this episode of Project I AM, Dr. David J. Schlosz explores the hidden cost of self-abandonment and why so many of us learned to disconnect from ourselves in order to survive. Drawing from relational therapy, trauma work, somatic psychology, and personal experience, David unpacks how self-protection can quietly become self-betrayal and why choosing ourselves in healthy, grounded ways is one of the most courageous acts we can make. If you’ve ever felt exhausted from performing, people-pleasing, caretaking, or disappearing inside relationships, this conversation is for you. You do not have to disappear to be loved.

People in this episode

Host: Dr. David J Schlosz

Topics covered

• self-abandonment
• self-protection
• mental health
• relational therapy
• trauma
• self-betrayal

Keywords

• self-abandonment
• mental health
• self-protection
• relational therapy
• trauma
• self-betrayal
• people-pleasing

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