About this episode

Tracy explores the internal mechanisms that influence our decision to speak up in meetings and the costs associated with it.

There's a moment right before you speak in a meeting where you can feel it building, and then it doesn't come out. Or it comes out smaller than it was in your head. In this episode, Tracy explores what's actually happening underneath that half second, the gap between the impulse to speak and the decision not to. It's not confidence. It's not the room. It's an internal bar, built early and built well, that quietly decides whether a sentence is allowed to exist before you're even aware there was a decision to make. Tracy walks through the three ways this shows up (the gesture that never becomes a raised hand, the sentence rehearsed until the room's moved on, the sentence that gets rounded on its way out) and reveals the one mechanism underneath all three. She also names a cost that's easy to miss: the same bar that makes you exceptional in one room may be exactly what's keeping you at the next level, and quietly costing you at your own table too. This episode doesn't ask you to become louder, or more at ease. It's about noticing the impulse arrive, and getting to choose from inside it, rather than being overridden before you knew a choice existed. If this episode found you, I'd…

People in this episode

Host: Tracy Tutty

Topics covered

• communication
• self-awareness
• personal development
• decision making
• confidence

Keywords

• speak up
• internal bar
• confidence
• communication
• decision making
• self-improvement
• impulse

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