We Don’t Want a Soft Boy or a Player... We Want This.

About this episode

The episode discusses the qualities of healthy masculine energy that women are attracted to in dating, particularly in their 30s and beyond.

Dating in your 30s, 40s, and beyond feels like you only get two options: the guy who can’t make a decision to save his life, or the one who plays games and leaves you anxious. Where are the men with actual backbone ... without the ego? The ones who make you feel safe, not small? In this girls girl episode, we’re breaking down the masculine energy women are actually attracted to and spoiler: it’s not the alpha-male podcasts or the “nice guy” who lets you lead everything. We cover: The 3 signs of healthy masculine energy that make strong women relax Why “soft boy” energy feels like dating another kid you have to raise The difference between a man who’s safe vs. one who’s just safe to ignore What we really mean when we say we want a man to “lead” How to spot the players cosplaying as providers before you catch feelings If you’re tired of choosing between chaos and caretaking in your relationships, this one’s for you. Send to the group chat.

People in this episode

Host: Asha Christina

Topics covered

• dating
• masculine energy
• relationships
• self-improvement
• women's empowerment

Keywords

• dating in your 30s
• masculine energy
• healthy relationships
• soft boy
• alpha male
• players
• women's attraction

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