Most People Are Dating on Autopilot

About this episode

The episode explores how invisible societal rules influence dating choices and encourages listeners to unlearn these norms for self-discovery.

Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink You think your dating choices are yours… but there's invisible rules shaping your sex, love, and identity. However, there is a disruption that queer, kinky, and non-monogamous people are leading, exposing amatonormativity, and the fantasy of desire that isn’t actually yours. To break down how to unlearn, rebuild, and finally choose yourself, we put Feeld’s new Reflections tool to the test; because self-discovery shouldn’t feel like homework. The script stopped working. Now what? CONTACT AIANO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aiano_/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queer_homemaking CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 intro 00:54 Do we make our own choices? 07:44 The bedroom crossover 16:54 Subliminal beliefs we hold 25:50 social rewards and punishments…

Topics covered

• dating choices
• amatonormativity
• self-discovery
• queer relationships
• non-monogamy

Keywords

• sex
• love
• identity
• kinky
• social rewards
• compulsory heteronormativity

Mentioned in this episode

Products: Reflections, FEELD, Reflections tool

Places: US

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