Sober Firsts: Making Amends (When “I’m Sorry” Gets Complicated)

About this episode

Anna and Lisa discuss their experiences with making amends in recovery and the complexities involved.

It’s the dreaded 8th Step in 12-Step recovery - making amends to those we have harmed. Anna and Lisa talk about their first experiences with it, as well as what “living amends” look like. And when an amends turns into a bitch session for the other person, we take it in stride, and maybe even have a laugh years later. Plus: how do you make amends to a no-longer-living grandmother you tricked into shoplifting against her knowledge?

People in this episode

Hosts: Anna, Lisa

Topics covered

• making amends
• 12-Step recovery
• living amends
• personal growth
• forgiveness

Keywords

• amends
• recovery
• forgiveness
• 12-Step
• personal growth
• living amends
• shoplifting

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