About this episode

Heather Shannon interviews Amanda Dames about the skills and dynamics of dominance and submission in relationships.

Take the free quiz to find out why you're stuck in a sex rut: https://TheBetterBedroom.com What does it actually take to feel dominant in the bedroom, and why do so many of us freeze up when it's our turn to lead? In this episode, Heather sits down with Amanda Dames, a kink consultant and former professional dominatrix, to break down the real skills behind dominance, submission, and power dynamics in a relationship. Amanda spent two years working at a dungeon while holding down a corporate job at the Wall Street Journal, and she brings that hands-on experience into a real conversation about how dominant and submissive roles actually work, how to figure out your own authentic style, and how to vet a partner for safety before you ever get started. They cover the different types of Doms (Master, Traditional Dom, Caretaker Dom, and Pleasure Dom), the different types of submissives (service subs, slaves, baby girls and boys), the red flags that signal an unhealthy power dynamic, and why most of what we see about kink and BDSM in movies sets totally unrealistic expectations. If you're ready to go deeper than a podcast episode, visit https://HeatherShannon.co to request a free…

People in this episode

Host: Heather Shannon

Guest: Amanda Dames

Topics covered

• dominance
• submission
• power dynamics
• kink
• BDSM
• relationships

Keywords

• dominatrix
• kink consultant
• power dynamics
• BDSM
• dominant roles
• submissive roles
• relationship safety

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Wall Street Journal, The Better Bedroom, HeatherShannon.co

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