How to Feel Sexy Despite Aging and Body Changes

About this episode

Heather explores how bodily changes affect sexual confidence and intimacy, offering mindset shifts and emotional tools to reconnect with feeling sexy.

Sometimes your body changes — weight gain, new wrinkles, giving birth, surgery, balding, etc. And when that happens, it can deeply affect the way you experience desire, sexual confidence, intimacy, and your whole identity as a sexual being. In this episode, Heather explores the grief of bodily change, the unrealistic expectations many people have about sexuality staying the same forever, and the ways self-monitoring and body image struggles can create barriers to intimacy and pleasure. You’ll also hear practical mindset shifts and emotional tools to help you reconnect with feeling sexy, desirable, embodied, and alive in the body you have now. Topics include: • Sexual identity and changing bodies • Aging, perimenopause, and body image • Erection changes and vaginal dryness • Chronic pain, surgery, and disability • Feeling disconnected from your body sexually • Why self-monitoring kills pleasure • Cultural beauty standards and desirability • Botox, cosmetic procedures, and body optimization culture • Reclaiming confidence and sexuality • How thoughts shape sexual confidence and desire Resources & Links: Heather’s Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc…

People in this episode

Host: Heather Shannon

Topics covered

• sexual identity and changing bodies
• aging and body image
• intimacy and pleasure
• self-monitoring and body image struggles
• cultural beauty standards
• reclaiming confidence and sexuality

Keywords

• aging
• body changes
• sexual confidence
• intimacy
• body image
• pleasure
• cultural standards
• self-monitoring

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