#196: Vanilla Sex

#196: Vanilla Sex

From Sex, Love & Money with Rebecca Antonucci by Rebecca Antonucci

May 10, 2026 · 1h 16m

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Rebecca Antonucci discusses the concept of vanilla sex and its emotional implications, sharing personal experiences and insights from her dating life.

You've had great sex that left you feeling nothing. You've had a man who did everything right, and woken up emptier than before. You told yourself it was him. You moved on. You tried again. Same result, different man. It was never him. And it was never the act of intimacy. It was the absence of everything that needed to come first. Vanilla sex has nothing to do with what's happening in the bedroom. It's sex without roots. Sex without time. Sex without knowing someone, and being known back. And if you've been cycling through men wondering why nothing ever feels like enough, this episode is going to name something you've felt but never quite had the words for. I recorded this 48 hours after a real epiphany hit me mid-dating: live, unfiltered, and straight from Bali. I tell you the full story of the man I've been dating, the padel court where it started, the wine cellar date, the comedy show, the cup of tea that wasn't just a cup of tea, and the moment I caught myself about to do the exact thing I tell every woman not to do. Because the truth is: if you're using sex to try to feel something, no man will ever be able to give you what you're actually looking for. Time and time again…

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