EP483 – Purity Culture to Polyamory: How She Built a Mono-Poly Relationship

About this episode

Courtney Boyer discusses her transition from purity culture to a polyamorous lifestyle, exploring the impacts of societal expectations on women's identities and relationships.

Welcome to Episode 483 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to have Courtney Boyer on the show. In this episode, Courtney talks to me about how she transitioned from living in a strict purity culture to living in a polyamorous lifestyle. Courtney discusses her childhood in a strict religious setting where her worth and safety were closely linked to her ability to control her sexual urges. We talk about the "myth of the perfect Christian wife" and how many women in these communities feel pressured to keep up the act of sacrifice. Courtney Boyer, M.Ed., M.S., is a therapist-turned-relationship coach, writer, and speaker whose work centers on love, desire, and authenticity. She has been featured in The New York Post, Cosmopolitan, The Huffington Post, and BBC Radio Live. Drawing on her background in mental health and sex therapy, she brings a unique blend of professional expertise and lived experience to conversations around relationships and identity. When she isn’t writing or coaching, Courtney can be found chasing joy—traveling, reading, or savoring delicious coffee and deep conversation. She is passionate about helping women break free from shame, reclaim their bodies and…

People in this episode

Host: Dr. Nazanin Moali

Guest: Courtney Boyer

Topics covered

• Purity Culture
• Polyamory
• Monogamous Relationships
• Sexuality
• Women Empowerment
• Relationship Coaching

Keywords

• Purity Culture
• Polyamory
• Christian Wife
• Relationship Coaching
• Women Empowerment
• Sexuality
• Mental Health

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: The New York Post, Cosmopolitan, The Huffington Post, BBC Radio Live

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