EP489 - Frustration and Disappointment: How to Revive a Sexless Marriage with Elana Auerbach

About this episode

Elana Auerbach discusses how to navigate and revive physical intimacy in sexless marriages.

Welcome to Episode 489 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Elana Auerbach, who speaks to me about navigating sexless marriages and reviving physical intimacy. It is incredibly common for long-term relationships to experience a decline in physical intimacy over time. Often, couples fall into a routine where life gets busy, and cultivating a sexual spark drops to the bottom of the priority list. During our conversation, we explore why this happens and how unspoken frustrations and rejections can build up over time like invisible panes of glass between partners. Elana Auerbach is a lover, mother, mentor, activator, and priestess. She spent her childhood and young adulthood on what she calls 'the conveyor belt of life,' being the good girl and doing what others expected of her. This looked like graduating Phi Beta Kappa from UCLA, working on Wall Street for a Japanese investment bank, and marrying someone with whom she felt no chemistry. It all fell apart in 2001 when Elana realized she’d been living a lie and found the courage to leave her marriage. She entered a world of sensuality and sex in a San Francisco pleasure-centered community. This is where she met…

People in this episode

Host: Dr. Nazanin Moali

Guest: Elana Auerbach

Topics covered

• sexless marriages
• physical intimacy
• responsive desire
• libido discrepancies
• unspoken rejection
• sensuality

Keywords

• sexless marriage
• intimacy
• responsive desire
• libido
• rejection
• sensuality
• relationship advice

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: UCLA, Wall Street

Places: San Francisco

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