989: 5 Questions That Make Difficult Conversations Less Terrifying | Leadership Strategies

About this episode

Sara Dean shares a 5-question framework to approach difficult conversations, emphasizing emotional intelligence and self-leadership.

Difficult conversations are something most of us avoid, delay, or overthink. I get it. Who wants to get super uncomfortable - on purpose?! But what if you could reframe difficult conversations as a massive opportunity to grow your leadership skills? In this episode, I share how I approach these conversations through a simple 5-question framework that centers on emotional intelligence, intentionality, care, and self-leadership. In this episode, we explore how quickly our assumptions can shape a conversation before it even begins, and why separating fact from story is such a powerful communication skill for leaders. I also talk about what it looks like to create common ground intentionally, even when tension exists, and how that changes the trajectory of conflict resolution. One of the most important parts of having hard conversations is not just what you say, but how you show up. I walk through how to ground yourself before speaking, how to choose your tone and energy, and how to anchor into the leader you want to be in the moment. This is how we start to shift from reacting to leading. If you’ve ever wondered how to speak up at work or in your leadership without overexplaining…

People in this episode

Host: Sara Dean

Topics covered

• difficult conversations
• leadership skills
• emotional intelligence
• communication
• conflict resolution
• self-leadership

Keywords

• difficult conversations
• leadership
• communication skills
• emotional intelligence
• conflict resolution
• trusting relationships

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