1969: The Science of Attraction and Why Dating Is Still Financially Complicated
About this episode
The episode explores the complexities of modern dating, financial independence, and how these factors influence relationships.
We’re diving into modern dating today—and not the glossy, swipe-right version—but the real, complicated, emotionally loaded landscape so many of you are navigating right now. What happens when you’re financially independent… maybe even out-earning your partner… and the old rules no longer apply? Why are some women opting out altogether, saying “I’m good on my own”… while others are leaning into this rising “tradwife” movement as a kind of antidote to burnout and girlboss culture? And in a world of endless options, dating apps, and shifting power dynamics—how do you actually find a relationship that lasts? My guest today is someone who has spent years studying exactly this. Amy Chan is the author of UNSINGLE: How to Date Smarter and Create Love that Lasts and the bestselling Breakup Bootcamp . Dubbed the "scientific Carrie Bradshaw" by The Observer, she has helped thousands of singles transform their love lives through her world-renowned Breakup Bootcamp and Dating Bootcamps. And in our conversation, we’re getting into everything—from the psychology of attraction and why dating feels so exhausting right now… to how money, ambition, and identity are reshaping relationships in real…
People in this episode
Host: Farnoosh Torabi
Guest: Amy Chan
Topics covered
- modern dating
- financial independence
- relationship dynamics
- psychology of attraction
- dating apps
- ambition and identity
Mentioned in this episode
Organizations: The Observer
Books & works: UNSINGLE: How to Date Smarter and Create Love that Lasts, Breakup Bootcamp
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