Why We Stay in Bad Relationships, Solved

Why We Stay in Bad Relationships, Solved

May 20, 2026 · 1h 55m

About this episode

The episode explores why emotionally aware individuals remain in damaging relationships, using the Depp-Heard case to illustrate key psychological mechanisms.

Why do smart, emotionally aware people stay in relationships that are clearly destroying them? Drew and I dug into the Johnny Depp and Amber Heard marriage, to walk through the seven psychological mechanisms that quietly lock people inside bad relationships and make leaving feel impossible. If you have ever watched someone you love stay in a relationship that is destroying them, or if you have been that person yourself, this episode will shine a lot of light on what is really going on under the hood. Get your free episode guide: https://solvedpodcast.com/bad-relationships/ CHAPTERS (00:00:00) Introduction (00:04:00) The Johnny Depp and Amber Heard Backstory (00:14:30) Normalization (00:27:00) The Identity Trap (00:41:30) The Slot Machine Effect (00:51:30) Cognitive Dissonance (01:01:30) The Sunk Cost Fallacy (01:10:30) The Guilt Cage (01:16:00) The Terror of the Void (01:24:00) The Aftermath of Johnny and Amber (01:30:00) How to Counteract Each Mechanism CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS ⏹ Master Class: Get 15% off any annual membership at ⁠https://www.masterclass.com/solved⁠ ⏹ Ultra Pouches: Use code SOLVED to get 15% off at ⁠https://www.takeultra.com⁠ ⏹ Factor: Head to⁠…

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Host: Mark Manson

Guest: Drew

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