About this episode

The episode explores the concept of 'now' and how to deal with poisonous people in our lives.

What if you followed people for 80 years—tracking their health, happiness, and relationships over a lifetime? That’s exactly what one of the longest-running studies ever has done, and what it reveals about how to live a good life may not be what you expect. https://www.adultdevelopmentstudy.org/ We all think we know what “now” means—until we try to define it. The present moment feels obvious, yet science struggles to explain it. Your brain doesn’t have a clear way to register “now,” and your experience of time can stretch, compress, and shift depending on what you’re doing and how you feel. Jo Marchant, science writer and author of In Search of Now: The Science of the Present Moment (https://amzn.to/4tKBvbs), explores how we experience time, why it feels different from moment to moment, and how we can become more aware participants in the way we perceive our lives unfolding. Most people have encountered someone who drains their energy, creates conflict, or leaves them feeling worse after every interaction. These “poisonous” individuals often display traits like manipulation, lack of empathy, or extreme self-centeredness. The real challenge isn’t just recognizing them—it’s knowing…

People in this episode

Host: Mike Carruthers

Guests: Jo Marchant, Dr. Leanne ten Brinke

Topics covered

• health
• psychology
• self improvement
• science of time
• relationships
• toxic people

Keywords

• present moment
• toxic relationships
• time perception
• health study
• psychology
• self-centeredness
• manipulation

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: University of British Columbia, adultdevelopmentstudy.org

Books & works: In Search of Now: The Science of the Present Moment, Poisonous People: How to Resist Them and Improve Your Life

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