The Psychology of Attention Seekers (& How to Deal)

About this episode

The episode explores attention-seeking behavior through the lens of attachment theory and emotional awareness.

Ever wonder what are examples of attention-seeking behavior? In this episode, your two favorite black therapists as we explore how what’s often labeled as “attention-seeking” may actually be a human need for connection, safety, and validation. Through an attachment lens, we unpack where these behaviors come from, how shame gets attached to them, and how we can respond, to ourselves and others, with curiosity instead of judgment. This conversation invites listeners to soften their inner critic, deepen emotional awareness, and build healthier ways to ask for what they need. Time stamps: 00:00 intro 01:25 Why does attention seeking even matter? 09:50 Ways people attention seek: drama, talking too much, overcommunication, being too much, needing reassurance 15:01 What is attachment? 19:25 Learning about your attachment style (learning in childhood and mind reading and why you need a safe space) 31:47 Tips Podcasts versions are at: Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mentally-dope/id1673538196 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2DiRPvXY1ua6ftLg5FR98Q?si=aa3601b4b9ca490f Amazon Music: ​​ https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/2a85c229-4bd8-4526-a65d-66b453998bce/mentally-dope…

People in this episode

Hosts: Charmaine Beasley, Jasmine Bishop

Topics covered

• attention-seeking behavior
• human connection
• attachment theory
• emotional awareness
• mental health

Keywords

• attention-seeking
• attachment style
• mental health
• curiosity
• validation

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