Why I Keep Losing Myself While Dating

About this episode

Kelley discusses the complexities of modern dating, including self-identity and navigating relationships.

Dating used to feel fun, now it feels like a full-time job with no benefits, unclear rules, and way too much overthinking. In this episode, Kelley gets into what dating actually looks like right now, from navigating situationships and mixed signals to figuring out your standards, spotting red flags, and trusting your instincts again. She talks about dating someone with kids and what that really means, the dealbreakers we say we have but don’t always stick to, the immediate swipe nos that say more than we think, and the biggest challenge of all: how to like someone without losing yourself in the process. If you’ve ever stared at a text too long, ignored a red flag, or felt yourself slowly slipping into someone else’s routine, this is your reminder that dating should add to your life, not take you out of it. Hungry for more? Follow us on Instagram & TikTok Produced by @sickbirdproductions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

People in this episode

Host: Kelley

Topics covered

• dating
• relationships
• self-identity
• boundaries
• red flags
• situationships

Keywords

• dating
• situationships
• red flags
• self-identity
• boundaries
• dealbreakers
• mixed signals

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: SickBird Productions

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