What If Your Turn-Ons Are Trying To Heal You #136

About this episode

The episode discusses the importance of truth in the body for a fulfilling sex life with guest Darshana Avila.

Your sex life doesn’t need more performance, it needs more truth in the body. We sit down with Darshana Avila, a trauma-informed somatic educator and sexological bodyworker featured on Netflix’s Sex, Love and Goop, to talk about what changes when you stop chasing “being good” and start building real connection to sensation, desire, and choice. We dig into erotic wholeness: Eros as sexuality and also as creativity, vitality, and life force. From shame to BDSM misconceptions to the idea behind...

People in this episode

Host: Tamara Schoon

Guest: Darshana Avila

Topics covered

• trauma-informed education
• somatic bodywork
• erotic wholeness
• connection to sensation
• desire and choice

Keywords

• sex life
• truth in the body
• trauma-informed
• somatic educator
• BDSM misconceptions

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Sex, Love and Goop

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