Trans 101: Dating While Trans (with Julia Serano)

About this episode

This episode explores the challenges and stigma faced by trans individuals in the dating world, featuring insights from Julia Serano.

Every notification is a gamble: Is this a genuine connection or another person who swiped right just to tell you you're disgusting? Welcome to dating while trans. In this episode, we're exploring the disclosure dilemmas, infrastructure failures, and stigma that make dating "super hell" for trans people—featuring author and theorist Julia Serano (Whipping Girl). You'll hear why the design of dating apps fails trans people, how anti-trans stigma poisons relationships even when the attraction is real, what "chasers" are and why the fetish mindset is so harmful, and why trans women face wildly different (and more dangerous) dating experiences than trans men. Not attracted to trans people? Nobody’s gonna force you to change that—but we are going to help you examine whether your feelings come from you, or from the stigma society planted in your head. Plus, stick around until the end of the episode for a bonus clip all about trans sex from Sex Ed with DB . You can listen to that full episode here . More from Julia Serano: Julia’s website: https://juliaserano.com/ Whipping Girl: A Transsexual Woman on Sexism and the Scapegoating of Femininity…

People in this episode

Host: Ashley Hamer Pritchard

Guest: Julia Serano

Topics covered

• dating while trans
• trans stigma
• dating apps
• relationships
• trans experiences

Keywords

• trans dating
• disclosure dilemmas
• anti-trans stigma
• dating apps design
• chasers
• fetish mindset
• trans women
• trans men

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Whipping Girl

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