There’s an Alien Inside Me: Medical Misogyny, a Rom-Com, and Struggles with Infertility

About this episode

Nicole shares her experience with medical misogyny and struggles with infertility after being misdiagnosed with weight gain instead of a large tumor.

Nicole was 21 years old and had an alien growing inside her chest. Well, no, not really. But it WAS an extremely large tumor growing inside of her that very much FELT like an alien — an alien that doctors had told her multiple times was just weight gain. After dismissal time after time again, Nicole finally meets a surgeon who tells her that she has a massive cyst on her fallopian tube that was 32 centimeters wide. This isn’t just a story about the pain of medical misogyny (although, hey, if you needed more proof women are never taken as seriously as they should be in healthcare, here’s more for you!) – it’s also a story about the pain of what could have been. Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! You can buy Nora’s books on Bookshop or Amazon, or wherever you buy books. Nora is on IG, TikTok, Facebook and LinkedIn. Our Sponsors: ❤️ Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to ⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Go to ⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. ⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠ ❤️ ⁠⁠Shop Everyday Cotton, and all…

People in this episode

Host: Feelings & Co.

Guest: Nicole

Topics covered

• medical misogyny
• infertility
• healthcare
• personal story
• tumor
• women's health

Keywords

• medical misogyny
• infertility
• tumor
• healthcare
• women's health
• personal story

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