Competent Roles for Kids with ADHD
About this episode
The episode discusses the importance of assigning children with ADHD meaningful responsibilities to foster their independence and executive function skills.
Hosts Ryan and Mike make the case that children with ADHD don't need fewer responsibilities — they need better-scaffolded, consistent ones. They introduce the idea of a "competent role": an ongoing, child-owned job that genuinely matters to the family, distinct from a random chore. Along the way they name the "high giving, low expectations" trap that well-meaning parents fall into, explain why learned helplessness gets weaponized to escape non-preferred tasks, and walk through the executive-function skills these roles quietly build. The episode closes with a practical playbook for creating one competent role this week, grounded in research on autonomy, competence, and relatedness. Find Mike @ www.grownowadhd.com & on IG Find Ryan @ www.adhddude.com & on Youtube {{chapters}} [00:00:00] Start [00:02:14] What a Competent Role Actually Is [00:04:09] High Giving, Low Expectations [00:11:09] The Four Parts of a Competent Role [00:14:19] How Roles Build Executive Function [00:16:50] Create One Competent Role This Week
People in this episode
Hosts: Ryan, Mike
Topics covered
- ADHD
- parenting
- responsibilities
- executive function
- competent roles
- learned helplessness
Keywords
- ADHD
- parenting
- responsibilities
- executive function
- competent roles
- learned helplessness
- autonomy
- competence
- relatedness
Mentioned in this episode
Organizations: www.grownowadhd.com, www.adhddude.com
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