About this episode

Jay Stringer discusses the disruptive power of desire and its implications for personal growth and identity.

Welcome back to the second half of this powerful conversation with Jay Stringer. Building on the foundation of his book, "Desire,"Jay moves us deeper into one of the most provocative ideas of the conversation: Sometimes our desires must disrupt and even destroy something in order to make way for something more true. This isn't destruction for destruction's sake. Iconoclasm is the breaking of false structures, identities, and "provisional selves" that no longer serve us. And as Jay explores, when we don't have wise guides or meaningful rites of passage, that disruption often shows up as self-sabotage—affairs, addictions, burnout, or relational breakdown. But instead of dismissing those moments as failure, Jay invites us to see them as honest signals—clues pointing back to our story, our unmet longings, and the deeper work our soul is trying to initiate. Listen in to a conversation that is rich with story and grounded in research as they also explore: why community is essential for making sense of our desires (and why we can't do this work alone) how to interrogate your desires in a healthy, curious way—not with shame, but with wisdom and how our desires are often shaped by forces…

People in this episode

Guest: Jay Stringer

Topics covered

• desire
• self-sabotage
• community
• identity
• personal growth
• wisdom

Keywords

• desire
• self-sabotage
• community
• identity
• personal growth
• wisdom
• longings

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Desire, Desire: The Longings Insi

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