EP. 15 | So I Decided to Interview My Husband...

About this episode

A candid conversation between Alexis and her husband Todd about the dynamics of modern marriage and parenting amidst ambition and responsibilities.

What does it actually look like when two ambitious people are building a life together .... from both sides? In this episode, I hand the mic to my husband, Todd Grantham - entrepreneur, father of four, and the person who has seen me at my most magnetic and my most completely undone. No script, no canned questions. Just a real conversation about what modern marriage actually looks like when ambition, identity, money, and family are all in the mix at the same time. We get into the invisible load debate and why one viral Instagram post made me break my own "don't take the bait" rule. We talk about how we split household responsibilities - and why we've never actually sat down and agreed on any of it. We go deep on parenting values, religion, raising kids who can think for themselves, and what we want our children to see when they look at us. And yes, we talk about the dishwasher. At length. This is the episode behind the episode - the partnership story that makes everything else possible. In this conversation: - How we actually divide household labor (and what the research gets wrong) - The invisible load, rage bait culture, and why broad generalizations are hurting the conversation…

People in this episode

Guest: Todd Grantham

Topics covered

• modern marriage
• household responsibilities
• parenting values
• ambition
• identity
• money
• family

Keywords

• invisible load
• rage bait culture
• household labor division
• parenting
• self-sufficiency

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