Let’s Get Practical: Conflict, Needs, and the Communication Types

Let’s Get Practical: Conflict, Needs, and the Communication Types

From The Candace Cameron Bure Podcast by CandyRock

June 2, 2026 · 37 min · Season 15 · Episode 4

About this episode

Candace and communication coach Jason VanRuler discuss conflict resolution and communication types in relationships.

Have you ever known something was broken in a relationship but had no idea how to say what you actually needed to fix it? That's where so many of us get stuck. This week, Candace and communication coach Jason VanRuler move from understanding the PATHS types to putting them to work, starting with a listener question about a family conflict that has been festering for twenty years. Jason reframes the whole thing: the problem is rarely that people won't talk. It's that they don't know what they need in order to move forward. The conversation moves through how each communication type engages with conflict, from the Peacemaker who needs reassurance that the relationship will survive the hard conversation, to the Advocate who can throw the whole relationship away for the win, to the Thinker who arrives with a trolley of evidence, to the Harbor who creates so much space for feelings that the conflict never actually gets resolved, to the Spark who surprises everyone when the intensity finally breaks. Jason also addresses what to do when the other person simply is not willing, and how to tell the difference between what we want and what we actually need. Two more listener questions round…

People in this episode

Host: Candace Cameron Bure

Guest: Jason VanRuler

Topics covered

  • communication
  • conflict resolution
  • relationship advice
  • identity
  • listener questions

Keywords

  • communication types
  • conflict
  • relationship
  • listener questions
  • identity
  • anxiety

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