Sometimes We're Clueless!

About this episode

This episode discusses the disengagement in communication types and the challenges of maintaining connection in relationships.

Have you ever been in a conversation and realized somewhere along the way you completely checked out? Not because you wanted to, but because your wiring just took you somewhere else? That's what this episode is about. Jason VanRuler is back as co-host, and together he and Candace break down what happens when each of the five PATHS communication types disengage. Not through open conflict or blowups — the quieter drift that happens when a Peacemaker decides it is not worth it, when a Thinker goes silent and starts cycling inward, or when a Harbor abandons themselves by over-functioning for everyone else. Candace talks openly about parenting teenagers and what it took to remember she was the adult in the room, even when the room was loud. Jason shares what it looks like when couples call him months after an intensive counseling session, having slid back into the same patterns that brought them in the first time. Connection, he says, is not something you tend to reactively. It is something you build consistently, and every PATHS type has a particular way of falling off that path. There are four listener questions in this episode, and they are honest ones: about anger that feels like…

People in this episode

Host: Candace Cameron Bure

Guest: Jason VanRuler

Topics covered

• communication
• relationships
• parenting
• marriage
• emotional health

Keywords

• communication types
• disengagement
• parenting teenagers
• marriage challenges
• emotional connection

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