No. 1 Reason Men Can't Finish Hard Things w/ John Sablan
From The Catholic Gentleman by John Heinen, Devin Schadt
May 14, 2026 · 1h 15m
About this episode
John Sablan discusses the challenges men face in completing difficult tasks and the moral implications of effeminacy in the context of Catholic teachings.
🟢 FREE Handmade Rosary This Month for those joining CG+ https://catholicgentlemanplus.com/rosary John Sablan spent the better part of his adult life being what he now calls the X factor in his family: the one holding everything back. Raised in abuse, living a wayward life, he and his wife stumbled into the Catholic Church, and he settled comfortably into being lukewarm. His marriage came to the edge. Then at a men's conference, with a general confession, and a priest praying deliverance over him in Latin changed the trajectory. In this conversation, John Heinen and Devin Schadt sit down with John Sablan to get at the real roots of what's keeping men soft and what it actually takes to do something about it. Rooted in Thomistic psychology (which he studied under Fr. Chad Ripperger), John defines effeminacy the way Aquinas did: not a personality flaw, but a moral vice. The inability to deny pleasure in order to pursue the arduous good. He unpacks the trap men fall into when they finally decide to get serious: trading softness for stoicism, white-knuckling virtue as a self-improvement project, making the whole thing about proving themselves rather than serving God. They also…
People in this episode
Hosts: John Heinen, Devin Schadt
Guest: John Sablan
Topics covered
- masculinity
- Catholic faith
- personal growth
- effeminacy
- marriage
- virtue
Keywords
- hard things
- men's conference
- general confession
- Thomistic psychology
- moral vice
- stoicism
- self-improvement
- saving marriage
Sponsors
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Mentioned in this episode
Organizations: Catholic Church, Serviam Institute, World Ablaze
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