Episode 097 Featuring Aven Barbosa

About this episode

In this episode, host Calvin Anderson speaks with Aven Barbosa about navigating relationship conflicts and the role of attachment styles in therapy.

Navigating Relationship Conflicts with Aven Barbosa "I cannot fix it for anyone." Summary In this episode of The Check-In With Podcast, host Calvin Anderson speaks with Aven Barbosa, a licensed associate professional counsellor, about her journey from real estate to therapy. Aven shares insights on understanding conflict in relationships, the importance of attachment styles, and how to navigate feelings of rejection. They discuss the negative cycles that can occur in relationships and the unique approach of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) in creating safety and connection. Aven emphasizes the importance of curiosity, validation, and communication in therapy and relationships, while also addressing common fears and misconceptions about seeking help. Takeaways Aven felt a calling to be a therapist for many years. Conflict often masks deeper emotional needs in relationships. Attachment styles influence how partners react in conflict. The negative cycle in relationships is not about blame but about patterns. Feeling rejected often leads to either pursuit or withdrawal in partners. Secure attachment does not mean no conflict; it means effective repair. Creating safety in therapy…

People in this episode

Host: Calvin Anderson

Guest: Aven Barbosa

Topics covered

• relationship conflicts
• attachment styles
• Emotionally Focused Therapy
• communication
• validation
• mental health

Keywords

• relationship conflicts
• attachment styles
• Emotionally Focused Therapy
• communication
• mental health
• therapy

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Emotionally Focused Therapy

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