Why Do I Keep Yelling at My Child When I Know Better? It's Not a Knowledge Problem.
About this episode
Philippa Scott explores why parents often yell at their children despite knowing better, focusing on the role of the nervous system and childhood experiences.
ou've read the books. You've listened to the podcasts. You know about gentle parenting, emotional regulation and connection before correction. So why do you still find yourself yelling at your child? In this episode of The Family Architect , Philippa Scott explores one of the most common and painful questions parents ask themselves: "If I know better, why do I keep doing the very thing I promised I'd never do?" The answer isn't a lack of knowledge. It's that your nervous system and your thinking brain are operating from two very different places. When you're under stress, your survival system reacts long before your reflective brain has a chance to respond. That's why your parenting knowledge often arrives minutes later, usually accompanied by guilt. Philippa explains why this happens, how your own childhood wiring continues to influence your parenting today, and why the goal isn't simply becoming better at managing your reactions. It's understanding and updating the nervous system patterns that created them. If you've ever wondered why you keep repeating patterns you desperately want to change, this episode will help you understand what's happening inside your brain and why…
People in this episode
Host: Philippa Scott
Topics covered
- parenting
- emotional regulation
- nervous system
- stress response
- childhood experiences
Keywords
- yelling
- gentle parenting
- emotional regulation
- nervous system
- parenting knowledge
More episodes of The Family Architect: Parenting by Design, Rather than by Default
- Who Helps You When Parenting Gets Hard? | Real-Time Parenting Support & Mum Wise
- Who Do You Talk To When Parenting Gets Hard?
- The Shame That Keeps You Silent (And the Cycle Keeps Running)
- WHY DO I KEEP BECOMING THE PARENT I NEVER WANTED TO BE?
Explore listener stats, chart rankings, contacts and more on the The Family Architect: Parenting by Design, Rather than by Default podcast page.