Trauma Expert: How to Rebuild Self-Identity After Years of Shame - Tim Fletcher

About this episode

Tim Fletcher discusses the impact of complex trauma on self-identity and relationships, offering insights on healing and recovery.

Tim Fletcher is a researcher and counselor with over 30 years of experience, specialising in the field of Addiction and Complex Trauma recovery. I’m launching a course on FINDING LOVE that explains how to heal unhealthy patterns and find a healthy relationship. Join waitlist here - https://tr.ee/bIUJlW-oyZ 1:1 Life Coaching - https://tr.ee/7S2Xi6rtod FREE QUIZ: The 5 Patterns Blocking Healthy Love - https://tr.ee/ZVRec4up_V FREE CBT eBook - https://tr.ee/eziT_m9aym New Book Waitlist - https://tr.ee/9EWZAp0OZm 00:00 Intro02:08 What Is Complex Trauma?08:33 Dissociating As A Trauma Response12:09 Can You See Trauma in Someone's Eyes?17:00 Family Roles Created by Trauma26:15 Why Trauma Creates Deep Shame32:00 Low self worth vs shame34:20 Why Trauma Makes You Feel Like a Burden41:19 Rebuilding Your Identity After Trauma50:10 How Trauma Affects Relationships53:30 How Wound Of Abandonment Ruins Relationships55:05 How To Heal Wound Of Abandonment58:55 Why Trauma Makes You Feel Like You Don’t Belong01:01:39 Feeling Like An Outcast Like A Kid01:05:15 How To Recover From Bullying01:06:46 Trauma & Intimacy01:13:37 Healing Your Intimate Life After Trauma01:20:35 How to Let Go of a…

People in this episode

Host: Francesca Tighinean

Guest: Tim Fletcher

Topics covered

• Complex Trauma
• Self-Identity
• Shame
• Relationships
• Healing
• Addiction

Keywords

• trauma
• self-identity
• shame
• relationships
• healing
• addiction
• bullying
• intimacy

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: FINDING LOVE, 1:1 Life Coaching, FREE QUIZ: The 5 Patterns Blocking Healthy Love, FREE CBT eBook, New Book Waitlist

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