E141: Push & Pull (How We Try To Manage Connection)

About this episode

The episode discusses how people manage connection through push and pull behaviors in relationships during uncertain times.

This is part 2 in the series Why We Keep Missing Each Other (Attunement & Why It Matters). When connection starts to feel uncertain, most of us don’t just sit with that discomfort—we move. We either push for closeness or pull away from it. In this episode, we name what push and pull actually look like in real relationships—not as personality flaws or problems to fix, but as understandable responses to uncertainty. We talk about how good, healthy bids for connection can start to feel...

People in this episode

Host: Jill M. Lillard

Topics covered

• connection
• relationships
• attunement
• uncertainty
• emotional responses

Keywords

• connection
• push and pull
• relationships
• attunement
• emotional responses

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