About this episode

The episode explores the complexities of family estrangement and communication breakdowns.

If you've ever wondered how a family goes from talking every week to not talking at all, this conversation is for you. Matthias Barker and I unpack why estrangement rarely happens because of one big moment—it usually comes after years of small moments that were never addressed. We talk about what parents often miss, what adult children wish their parents understood, and why the fastest way to push someone further away is to defend your intentions instead of trying to understand their experience. Join me on Supercast for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and AMAs: https://jefferson.supercast.com/ Leave me a voicemail to be featured on the show! https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/ask-jefferson  Order The Next Conversation Workbook: https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/workbook Thank you to our sponsors: LMNT. Head to https://drinkLMNT.com/jefferson to try risk free.  ZocDoc. https://zocdoc.com/jefferson to find and instantly book a doctor you love today. Square. Get up to $200 off Square hardware when you sign up at https://square.com/go/JEFFERSON  BetterHelp. Click https://betterhelp.com/jeffersonfisher for a discount on your first month of therapy. Order my book, The Next…

People in this episode

Host: Jefferson Fisher

Guest: Matthias Barker

Topics covered

• estrangement
• family communication
• mental health
• relationships
• understanding experiences

Keywords

• estrangement
• family
• communication
• psychotherapy
• relationships
• understanding
• mental health

Sponsors

LMNT, ZocDoc, Square, BetterHelp

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Civility Media

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