Don’t Call Me Resilient”: The Hidden Cost of Burnout, Invisible Labor & Holding It All Together | Allison Burton
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Allison Burton discusses the hidden costs of burnout and the pressures of invisible labor faced by military spouses and caregivers.
What if the thing people praise you for is the very thing that's breaking you? In this unforgettable conversation, Allison Burton joins The Misfit Nation to challenge one of society's favorite compliments: "You're so resilient." As a military spouse, speaker, writer, and advocate, Allison has spent years navigating deployments, parenting, relocation, career disruption, emotional labor, and the invisible responsibilities that often go unnoticed—but never disappear. Through her work, she has become a voice for women who are exhausted from carrying everything while being expected to smile through it. Together, we unpack: • Why burnout has become normalized • The emotional toll of invisible labor • Identity loss after years of putting others first • The reality of military family life behind the headlines • Why asking for help feels so difficult • The myth of "just stay strong" culture • How resentment quietly grows when needs go unmet • What it takes to rebuild yourself after years of self-sacrifice One of the most powerful moments comes when Allison explains why she no longer wants to be called resilient: "Don't call me resilient. Ask me why I have to be." Whether you're a military…
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Host: Richard LaMonica
Guest: Allison Burton
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